For My Daughter 

When Isabel M. Jones interviewed me for her artist blog, she mentioned  the theme was “hope.” I thought the topic extremely relevant and unfortunately rare. Once I read through her questions, one rang especially rare to me. I wish I were asked the question more. I happen to be very proud to be an artist mom. I  grew up in an artist household. I find my art and my love for my children pour from the same place. I hope for many things for my children. And here, Isabel asked a key question about it – and here’s the answer that poured out:

What do you hope your daughter will learn by watching you pursue acting?

My daughter found my dance shoes and just started ballet, so she taught me a class at home.

My daughter is incredibly perceptive. Two year olds are such incredible vessels of deep thought and feeling, mind and heart unseparated, that I honestly have learned more from her in regard to acting and how to express the truth of what my character is thinking or feeling or wanting. Toddlers have such assurance and lack of apology that spending time with my
daughter makes me bold.
There’s a courage to her joy and sorrow that I find powerful. In terms of what I hope she learns from watching me pursue my craft:

I hope she learns joy that comes from devotion to a life long discipline, whatever that may be for her.

That rejection from others has no connection to her inherent value.

That critics are meant to make us think, not make us doubt.

That making beautiful things is a valid social contribution.

That empathy and storytelling are effective ways to explore solutions and expand compassion.

That in real life some people do break out randomly into song and dance.

That telling the truth about what she feels and thinks, even when standing alone in the spotlight, should be lauded – whether on a stage or not.

That we are witnesses and contributors to each others stories, and how we engage with that truth matters.

That some professions require ten times the effort for success than others, but may be worth it.

That you can try every time and still not succeed every time, but failure is a part of a healthy process and work is the pursuit.

That I will support whatever she aspires to do. Always.

That is all equally true for my four month old son as well.

Read the full interview here:

Part 1 and Part 2


TODAY – FORUM: Motherhood in Theatre (Chicago) – FREE CHILDCARE PROVIDED

IT’S HAPPENING. After a successful meeting of Women in Theatre – the forum hosted by Onward & Upward – our official breakaway session on Motherhood in Theatre is live and ready for your voice. Register here!

And yes, as the title says, FREE CHILDCARE PROVIDED on-site (breastfeeding moms and children are also welcome in the forum space). Check out the details and click the link below to register you and your people:

When: February 25, 2017 (Saturday)

Where: Vagabond School of the Arts, 4001 N Ravenswood Ave #504

Time: 10:30AM-12:30PM

TicketsFREE (but please RSVP for you and any children who will be playing in our childcare via the “child” ticket option) or email if last minute –

What: A forum to begin conversation on the obstacles, joys, struggles, and solutions for motherhood in the theater. From social stigma to structure/schedules to sanity and opportunities, we will touch on common topics and also have time to share what we’ve experienced, all in all, to create a community here that will lead to productive change. 

We hope you can join us!

We are already working on similar events in Philadelphia and New York City. If you would like to be on the email list, shoot us an email.

This is the first but not only event we will be having this year. I hope you can make it, but if not, please contact me to get your name on the list, and we will absolutely keep you in the loop. You’re a part of this simply by who you are – and that in and of itself has value, you rockstar theatre mom.

See you soon.


Rachel Spencer Hewitt

Auditioning Mom